Satisfying Sex Positions That’ll Make Sex Last Longer

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There’s nothing wrong with a quickie. Certain circumstances call for a quicker romp, especially when time is short and your kids will only be napping for a little while longer. Or if you have downstairs neighbors who go to bed early, speed and silence are going to be the name of the game.

But other times, you want to revel in a roll in the hay that lasts as long as it possibly can and really lets you and your partner(s) draw out all the sensations you can feel. We’re talking vacation sex vibes, even when you’re not on vacation. 

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Whether your partner has some trouble staying hard or you find that you each reach your peak a bit faster than you’d like, you want to consider positions that allow you more control to go for as long as you’d like. Perfect for lazy mornings, long nights, and everything in between, take some notes on the sex positions that’ll help you last longer in bed.

Remember that good sex isn’t always a sprint to the finish line. Sometimes it’s a full-on marathon in which you have to really pace yourself.

Cowgirl

Regardless of your gender identity or that of your partner, choosing a position where the receiving partner gets on top can help both partners last longer. Most people are familiar with cowgirl, too, so it should be a seamless transition. The penetrating partner lays back and the receiving partner straddles them and begins grinding. Because the receiving partner has the control of the speed and depth of penetration, you can both take it slower and make sex last a bit longer than if one partner were doing all the fast-paced thrusting. Try the reverse cowgirl position for a different angle (and view) or for anal play.

Butterfly

A modified take on missionary, the receiving partner lays back on the bed (or whatever surface you’re playing on) and the penetrating partner enters while still standing or kneeling. Receiving partner, raise your legs up over their shoulders (or hooked over an arm — stick with the level of comfort that works with your flexibility). Together you can each control the depth of penetration and get some solid cervical and G-spot stimulation. The extra control you have can help if anyone gets too close too fast.

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Spooning

A lazy favorite, spooning allows you to really just grind it out at your own pace. Without anyone being up on their feet or all fours, its harder to over-do it on stimulation too fast. Simply have the penetrating partner enter the receiving partner from behind and move at your own sleepy rhythm. You can opt to use your hands however you want to get some clitoral action and can really easily back it up if you’re worried about going over the edge too soon.

Lotus

Another cuddly option, the lotus position lets the receiving partner be on top and guide the depth and intensity of penetration of a penis or toy. Sit aboard your penetrating partner’s lap, wrap your legs around them and ride. This is optimal for communication (eyes, mouths, micro-expressions are all easy to spot), so its great for keeping track of where you both are feeling and what moves will help you sustain the lasting experience you’re craving.

Edge

This one isn’t so much a position as just a general pro-tip: Try out edging to get a better understanding of how your orgasms come and go. (Think of it as sexy, kinky data-gathering). If you feel like you want to draw out your sexual encounters but get too worked up too fast, take a bit more time to breathe together and wind down when you feel close to finishing, and then build back up again. Step away from direct stimulation that’ll bring you to orgasm (you can come back to that later) and explore other erogenous zones. For partners with penises, rings (like this, this, or this one) can be super helpful in prolonging their road to orgasm too.

Chasing the orgasm shouldn’t be the point of sex (no matter how great they can be) and you’ll find that releasing the idea of orgasm as the ultimate end of your sex life can go a long way — and help you go a long way too!

Before you go, check out our favorite 69 sex positions to try before you die: